Wednesday, October 12, 2005
FRIENDS
My wife is my friend - has been for almost 30 years (altho we've only been married 4 years). In fact when she and her late husband Eddie, who was one of my best friends, temporarily broke up back in the 70's, she was strictly and automatically taboo. That's because my moral compass wouldnt let my needle point in her direction... I couldn't do anything to fuck over Eddie 'cause he was my friend and friends dont fuck over friends.
Likewise with Di now - now that she's my wife and FRIEND - I dont fuck over her.
So the basic sense here is this: when you have someone you truly care about, there's NO WAY that your mind or heart can allow you to intentionally hurt, deceive, or manipulate that person. That's what you do with people you dont give a shit about. The possibility that a painful truth could be found out, and that a true friend would be betrayed, especially someone whose feelings matter to you, is more than enough to curb that behavior.
That kind of crap just doesnt happen.
And anything short of that fails the definition of "friend".
Likewise with Di now - now that she's my wife and FRIEND - I dont fuck over her.
So the basic sense here is this: when you have someone you truly care about, there's NO WAY that your mind or heart can allow you to intentionally hurt, deceive, or manipulate that person. That's what you do with people you dont give a shit about. The possibility that a painful truth could be found out, and that a true friend would be betrayed, especially someone whose feelings matter to you, is more than enough to curb that behavior.
That kind of crap just doesnt happen.
And anything short of that fails the definition of "friend".
